child with attachment disorder will work hard to
keep you from getting too close. For the good of
the child, you need to work even harder to
remove any barriers between your child and
can?t purchase your child?s love with privileges
or things. This will not work. You cannot buy
good behavior, attachment, or healing. These
things will often stand between your child and
yourself, taking the focus off of your
relationship and placing it elsewhere. Spending
money on the misbehaving child reinforces the
negative behavior and impedes healing. Time is a
forget that your priority is your relationship
with your child and his progress toward healing.
Look at your child?s misbehavior as a learning
experience rather than as a personal attack.
Never let anger stand in the way of healing.
Computers, Video Games, Radio
in the healthy child, these electronic devices
often serve only to tune out relationships,
emotions, and thought. If you are raising a
child with attachment disorder, get rid of these
things, lock them up, or greatly reduce your
child?s use of them. These distractions should
be eliminated until your child is healed and his
relationships are solid.
the first few years of life, while the normal
child is learning to focus and to solve
problems, the use of such passive activity as
television and video games should be limited to
two hours a week. The RAD child, who has missed
that window of opportunity, has to be given a
chance for his brain to develop channels of
processing information. The detached child
shouldn?t be permitted to watch television for
six months to a year, so that healing has a
chance to occur.
your family structure is such that it is
impossible to eliminate television from your
child?s life, at least limit the amount of time
that he sits in front of it and be particularly
careful of the types of programming he watches.
Cartoons, with their rapid flicker rates, can be
than letting your child loose on electronic
devices, try Legos, Constructs, Lincoln Logs, or
other problem solving toys.