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Reactive Attachment Disorder: Resources: Foster Cline



 

 

Parenting With Love and Logic : Teaching Children Responsibility, by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay
Psychiatrist Foster Cline and educator Jim Fay's "Love and Logic" parenting method advocates raising responsible children through practice and structure. "Helicopter" parents hover around their children while "drill sergeant" parents give orders to theirs, they claim. The authors argue that neither of these styles permits children to learn how to make choices and learn from the consequences. The result is that, as early as adolescence, these kids too often make bad decisions. In the context of a healthy, loving relationship, "Love and Logic" parents teach their children responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems, providing skills for coping in the real world. After laying out the principles of "Love and Logic," the authors provide "parenting pearls," which are strategies for applying the method to actual situations such as back-seat battles in the car, homework, and keeping bedrooms clean. 229 pages. Personal Note: While not specifically written with RAD kids in mind, this book has often been cited by parents of children with reactive attachment disorder as being a useful and helpful supplement to other parenting methods.

 

 

Parenting With Love And Logic (Updated and Expanded Edition), by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay.
While not written specifically for parents of children with reactive attachment disorder, the authors include much that will be useful to such parents. Psychiatrist Cline and educator Fay's "Love and Logic" parenting method advocates raising responsible children through practice. "Helicopter" parents hover around their children while "drill sergeant" parents give orders to theirs, they claim. Neither of these styles permits children to learn how to make choices and learn from the consequences. The result is that as early as adolescence these children too often make bad decisions. In the context of a healthy, loving relationship, "Love and Logic" parents teach their children responsibility and the logic of life by solving their own problems, providing skills for coping in the real world. After laying out the principles of "Love and Logic," the authors provide "parenting pearls," which are strategies for applying the method to actual situations such as back-seat battles in the car, homework, and keeping bedrooms clean. Hardcover. 271 pages.

 

 

Parenting Teens With Love & Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood, by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay
Foster Cline and Jim Fay know teenagers well, and the book is engaging. The parenting pearls in the last third of the book are worth the price of purchase. Read it carefully; the book is short on "bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord" and long on "do not exasperate your children." 269 pages. Personal Note: While not specific for reactive attachment disorder, this and other books by Foster Cline have been cited as being helpful with children suffering from reactive attachment disorder.

 

 

Can This Child be Saved: Solutions for Adoptive and Foster Families, by Cathy Helding and Foster W. Cline
Offers parents help and hope, encouragement and support. It examines what causes children to act and react the way they do, and why conventional strategies and approaches often fail to reach them. It explores and validates parents feelings and offers struggling families clearly detailed and easy to understand parenting techniques and therapeutic approaches that do succeed with disturbed children. 357 pages. Personal Note: This book is specific to reactive attachment disorder and other related problems.

 

 

The Whole Parent: How to Become a Terrific Parent Even If You Didn't Have One, by Debra Wesselmann; foreward by Foster W. Cline (Foreword)
A sensitive and sensible guide for parents who want to learn more than parenting skills. The Whole Parent is for all parents who want to take an in-depth look at how their own childhoods, in particular relationships with their own parents, influence present-day relationships with their children. 368 pages.

 

 

Grandparenting With Love & Logic: Practical Solutions to Today's Grandparenting Challenges, by Jim Fay, Foster W. Cline.
Practical solutions to today's grandparenting challenges. 280 pages.

 

 

Helicopters, Drill Sergeants, and Consultants: Parenting Styles and the Messages They Send, by Jim Fay.
An abbreviated version of the Love & Logic book. 112 pages.

 

 

Teaching With Love and Logic: Taking Control of the Classroom, by Jim Fay and David Funk.
Using the Love & Logic approach in the classroom, in an approach that is designed to put teachers back in control of the classroom, produce students who have internalized discipline and who are not dependent upon external controls, to raise the level of student responsibility, and to prepare students to function in a world of temptations, decisions, and consequences. According to the Love & Logic approach, there are three rules:

  1. People learn from their own decisions;
  2. Use enforceable limits, providing choices within these limits; and
  3. Apply consequence with empathy.

399 pages.

 

 

The Pearls of Love and Logic for Parents and Teachers, by Jim Fay and Foster Cline.
Breaks down the chief concepts from the Love & Logic series into short two- or three-page chapters. 271 pages.

 

 

Marriage: Love And Logic, by Foster and Hermie Cline.
For thirty years Foster and Hermie Cline have worked with other couples individually and in groups, in this country and abroad, helping them learn how to do the same thing: build lasting relationships. The wisdom gained through all these years and experiences culminated in a book that is enjoyable and effective for couples wishing to make the most of their relationship. This book is intended to enrich your relationship with your loved one. Includes a bonus DVD packed with "laugh-and-learn" vignettes and links to a website questionnaire that will help you understand yourself, your loved one, and your relationship along nine different scales.

While my wife and I have not used the Love & Logic series in parenting our nephew, it has been recommended by several people in our online forum, and my understanding is that, while it is not specific to reactive attachment disorder, many of the techniques are applicable. If you try any of the books from this series, please let me know what you think.

Note: When available, and when money is an object, please consider purchasing a used book rather than a new one. While I don't earn nearly as much of a commission on the sale of used books, the difference in cost to you is worth considering. With the money you've saved, go out and buy yourself something. -- ken


 


Last Modified on: Saturday, August 08, 2009


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